Back in my early 20’s I went through one of the roughest and
hardest break ups I have had to endure.
It truly took a toll on me emotionally and physically. I
think the worst part was the toll it took on the love I had for myself.
incomplete now that I wasn’t a couple, I felt as though I was not capable of
being loved, like I was not worth any ones time or attention.
I mean if he didn’t want me, then who would? Why didn’t he
want me? Why wasn’t I enough? All thoughts that plagued my mind for a long
I haven’t thought about that breakup in a while, but I recently
bought Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur and some of her poems reminded me of that
I think we all remember our “first love” or our first “big girl”
The book is separated into 4 parts:
Each poem is so powerful and beautiful. I can relate to them
all on some level.
Even though I am now married with 3 kids her words took me
back to a time when I was still learning myself and my worth.
When I met my husband I wasn’t that same 22 year old girl, I
was stronger. Older. Wiser.
I’d decided what I wanted in a relationship, what I wasn’t
going to put up with, and how I deserved to be treated. My husband is also a
completely different man than my ex. The foundation of friendship I have with
him is irreplaceable.
I can truly say he is my best friend, I can honestly say
that (heaven forbid) if we had to co-parent I know we would be able to do it
because of the friendship we have with one another and that is so very important to me.
I’m thankful for that hurt, for that break up, for my
undoing, and for my growth. It’s made me a better person and led me to someone
who knew how to love me because I learned to love myself.
I love this book so much that I am hosting a giveaway, I
want to share her words with someone else. It’s really easy to enter– all you
have to do is leave a comment below! Winner announced 12/11!